Hello, I’m Vicki
I’m a Love, Dating and Relationship Coach, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Practitioner, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique / Tapping) Practitioner, Attachment Styles expert and the former Dating and Relationship expert for Match.com.
I help big-hearted women break free from emotionally unavailable connections and start dating in a way that leads to the healthy, committed relationship they deserve.
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For the past 12 years I’ve supported over 1,000 big hearted women to navigate the ups and downs of modern dating and find love in a healthy and committed relationship.
Helping my clients create relationships where they feel safe, seen and loved is one of the best parts of my job.
Outside of my professional experience, I am someone who used to really struggle in love. Dating and relationships were always a source of drama, pain and disappointment. It was only when I started to heal my relationship with myself and raise my standards in love, that my life and relationships transformed.
Since then, I’ve celebrated countless milestones alongside my clients - from going exclusive and moving in together, to getting engaged, married and starting families to discovering self love for the first time and finally dating from a place of self worth.
Every love story I’ve celebrated with my clients began with the realisation that love can’t grow in the same old cycles - and the brave decision to get help and date differently.
My guess is that you’re here because you’re done with second-guessing, situationships and emotionally unavailable connections that leave you feeling unseen, hurt and disappointed.
You’re ready to do the inner work to finally break free from these patterns and create a love life you’re proud of.
I believe that change is possible - and it starts with you.
Book your free Love Coaching Consultation and let’s get you ready for the healthy, committed relationship you deserve.
“Working with Vicki has been a transformative journey towards self-discovery and healing”
“As a love coach, Vicki offers a unique blend of compassion, insight, and expertise, guiding you towards deep and lasting change.
Her approach goes beyond finding love externally; it focuses on cultivating profound self-love and inner fulfilment. Through her personalised sessions and thoughtful guidance, Vicki helped me navigate my anxious attachments, enabling me to break free from old patterns and beliefs that were holding me back.
With Vicki's support, I learned valuable self-love practices that have empowered me to create healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life. Her wisdom and genuine care have significantly impacted my journey towards happiness and emotional well-being.
I highly recommend working with Vicki to anyone seeking to transform their relationship with love and themselves. With her expertise and support, you can embark on a journey of healing, growth, and self-discovery that will positively impact every area of your life.”
— Kirsten Dixon (former client)
My story
From an early age I have been both curious and fascinated by love.
Like a lot of people, I didn’t grow up seeing a healthy model of a loving and secure relationship.
From the relationships that I witnessed growing up to the fairytales, pop songs and rom coms that I consumed, I learnt that true love was about finding a ‘happily ever after’ and having someone to rescue you and complete you.
As someone with an anxious attachment style, I lost myself in relationships time and time again.
I expected my partner to complete me and could never understand why my relationships were always a source of anxiety, drama and disappointment.
Why they would consume all of my headspace, and still always feel like something was missing?
Then I realised that what was missing was me.
It was there that I started to question and challenge my understanding of love and how I show up in relationships.
I embarked on a journey of self discovery, healing and self love.
I learnt about the things I need in a relationship to feel safe and secure and I learnt how to express my needs and feelings to my partner.
I learnt how to prioritise my happiness, regulate my emotions and be a kind and loving friend to myself.
I learnt how to self soothe and heal my anxious attachment style.
And it changed everything.
Through a journey of self compassion and self understanding, I learnt to stop abandoning myself in love.
What I’ve learnt, from my clients and from my own transformation, is that the way to more inner peace and joy in our love lives is by healing our relationship with ourselves first. Because transformation starts from within and when we heal our hearts, the rest will follow.
What it takes is conscious effort, a big dose of courage, a little humour and the willingness to learn and grow.
Professional bio
Vicki Pavitt is a leading Love, Dating and Relationship Coach and Attachment Styles expert based in London, UK who helps big-hearted, ambitious women to date wholeheartedly and find love in a healthy and committed relationship.
For the past 12 years, Vicki has helped over a thousand women to navigate the ups and downs of modern dating with her compassionate approach. Her mission is to create a world where dating is kind and intentional, where relationships are healthy and wholehearted and where we all have the courage to love and be loved.
In her work as a Love Coach, the co-founder of Project Love and the former Dating and Relationship expert for Match.com, she’s been featured in the likes of Grazia, Vanity Fair, SELF, Cosmopolitan, BBC News, Elle, Glamour, Marie Claire, Stylist, The Independent, The Daily Telegraph, Red, Metro, Guardian, BBC Radio, Heart FM, Psychologies, Radio Headspace and the Evening Standard. She has worked with brands such as Liberty, Converse, Soho House, Sonos, Airbnb, Match.com, OK Cupid and Hinge.
Vicki is a licensed Master NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Practitioner, a certified Advanced EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique / Tapping) Practitioner, a BSc Psychology graduate and a lifelong learner in the field of Psychology, personal development, love and relationships. She is currently training in Somatic Attachment Therapy.
For 8 years, Vicki co-hosted the Project Love Podcast alongside friend and co-host Selina Barker, delivering lively podcast episodes of deep and meaningful conversations on life and love. The podcast enjoyed over half a million downloads globally.
In 2020, Project Love were named by the Evening Standard as 'London's fresh-start coaches' and were featured on Cosmopolitan's Positivity Index as one of the top 27 'joyful game changers' on Instagram (alongside Jameela Jamil and Sinead Burke). The Project Love end-of-year journal ‘Goodbye, Hello’ (published by Pavilion) was an Amazon bestseller and stocked at the likes of; Asos, Oliver Bonas, The Tate, National Theatre and Amazon.